The problem when you put people in a box

It’s not an uncommon question to ask someone ” what do you do” or ” where are you from” with the unsaid rational that you want to be able to streamline or adjust the conversation accordingly. The problem with these two questions ( which are almost predictable almost with everyone ) is that they are totally irrelevant to who the person actually is. Imagine asking Warren Buffet where he was born, or Rihanna who was born in a small village, Obama who wasn’t born as a president. It’s because you, we sadly think that by knowing the location of someone’s birth can tell you about them, it doesn’t. It in fact shows how narrow minded the person asking is.

What someone does for a living, the job they do, is not going to tell you anything you won’t know anyway. Now if these are just opening questions to start a conversation, I suggest you get new opening lines as these are not going to get much happening. Try ” what do you do for fun?” Or ” what is your dream job” questions like this will give you real insight into someone’s personality which is what you actually wanted.

Keep in mind, your filter on location or job title is your issue and your filter it’s not fact nor does it dictate any actual proof about someone, who they are or their character.